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The Importance of Therapy for Men: Exploring its Impact

Regardless of gender, anyone can be affected by mental health issues.

Regardless of gender, anyone can be affected by mental health issues. However, fewer men are still seeking therapy; let’s examine why this is the case.

It is a fact that men experience the same challenges as women, including anxiety, depression, relationship issues, and trauma. However, these issues can present differently for men. For example, depression may show as anger due to men tending to suppress emotions. Suppressed emotions contribute to mental health issues such as anxiety, depression, and stress.

Physical issues, such as headaches, digestive problems, and muscle tension, can also result from suppressed emotions.  A 2019 study concludes that concealing one’s emotions can hinder mental health, physical health and general well-being.

Case Study

I recently worked with a client who contacted me due to struggling with social anxiety and low self-esteem. We worked together for six weeks, and at the end of this time, the client left therapy knowing their worth which changed everything for them.

The client opted for an RTT hypnotherapy session; during regression, they returned to an incident that occurred at school when they were aged 8. They spoke about a time they could not answer a question in front of the class; they felt shamed and humiliated before their teacher and peers. The incident left the client feeling profoundly embarrassed and feeling like a failure. After the session, the client spoke about vaguely remembering the incident and feeling embarrassed whenever they thought about it. However, they did not recognise that what they experienced then deeply continued to influence how they felt about themselves today, which was that they were not good enough.

Working through the emotions associated with this experience and reframing outdated beliefs was life-transforming for this client.

Therapy for Men – The Statistics

It is not unusual for men to mask the symptoms of depression as they will take an “I just need to get on with it” approach. However, this can encourage unhealthy coping mechanisms such as drinking alcohol, substance misuse, pornography addiction, or gambling.

When these unhelpful coping strategies become “the problem”, men will recognise they need help, and at this point, their mental health may have declined significantly.

Statistics demonstrate that men’s mental health is something that requires more attention.

  •  The Office of National Statistics (ONS) 2021 states that 74% of death by suicide cases are men.
  •  In England and Wales, suicide is the most significant cause of death for men under 50.
  •  The Institute of Alcohol Studies (IAS) 2020,  men of all ages are likelier to become alcohol dependent than women.
  •  Men are more likely to be experiencing homelessness and be rough sleepers, and at the end of 2022, 96.2% of all prisoners were men.
  • NHS England’s Improving Access to Psychological Therapies (IAPT) states that in 2019/20 it recorded 65% of women,   compared to 35% of men, were referred to psychological services.

These statistics highlight the need to change society’s perception of men seeking therapy.

Why Some Men Struggle to Seek Help: Understanding the Barriers of Therapy for Men

Let’s consider WHY some men find it difficult to seek therapy.

Societal Gender Norms
Society has thoughts about how men should be – “strong, self-reliant, assertive, powerful”. These expectations can make it more challenging for men to reach out for support and instead mask or suppress any symptoms that suggest they are not coping.

Shame
If a man has adopted unhealthy coping strategies, there may be guilt, shame, or self-disgust, making sharing this with another person even more difficult. However, reaching out for help is a sign of strength and courage, and in therapy, you can learn how to work through any shame attached to what is going on for you.

Stigma
One significant roadblock that prevents men from seeking therapy is the stigma around mental health issues. As a society, we have the power to change this. It takes courage, but only when men talk about their mental health and talk about reaching out for therapy or other support will it become normalised. After all, you go to the gym to work on your physical health; working on your mental health is the same!

Fear of Vulnerability
What would it look like to reveal a side of yourself that isn’t always confident, courageous, and strong? Vulnerability is sharing your thoughts, emotions, feelings, and experiences with another person. It is like removing your armour and allowing another person to see your authentic self, your softer side. Allowing yourself to be vulnerable with those closest to you can deepen and strengthen relationships.

Finding a Therapist
The gender of a therapist is not important; you must find a therapist you feel safe and comfortable with. I work with many men in my therapy practice, and I recommend that you check if a therapist is comfortable working with male-related issues.

Let’s Now Discuss the Advantages of Therapy for Men

Therapy offers men a safe space to openly discuss their concerns and express themselves freely without fear of rejection.

In therapy, men can learn how to practice healthy coping strategies such as emotional regulation, meditation, grounding exercises, journalling, assertive communication, and implementing boundaries.

A therapist allows men the space to manage past issues that may impact their lives today.

Alternatively, some men prefer to focus on what is happening for them in the here and now rather than revisit past experiences. What you would like to gain from therapy is something you can talk through during a discovery call as you want to ensure that a therapist works in a way that you will find most helpful.

  • Being a Good Example

By going to therapy, you convey to others, including your friends and family, that taking care of your mental health is FINE.

Being open and honest about seeking help could inspire others to adopt your outlook and encourage the growth of a society where discussing emotions can be done more freely.

  • Strengthening Relationships

Effectively managing emotions can help build healthy and fulfilling relationships.

People tend to have closer relationships with their loved ones, members of their families, and close friends when they are aware of their own emotions and can empathise with others.

  • Improves Job Performance

The workplace is known to be a place that can be challenging when one is already struggling with their mental health. Therapy can help reduce work-related stress and anxiety, improve job performance, and it can help with enhancing communication and teamwork skills.

When To Seek Therapy

If you have any of the following symptoms, it may be a good idea to consider therapy:

  • Been more easily irritated than usual.
  • Experienced bursts of anger or aggression.
  • Felt sad or down.
  • Felt overwhelmed or under much pressure.
  • Unexpectedly gained or lost weight.
  • Started drinking or using drugs more frequently than before.
  • Been relying on alcohol or drugs to cope with a challenging situation.
  • Lost interest in activities you used to enjoy.
  • Struggled to concentrate at work, school, or home.
  • Had more headaches or days of feeling generally unwell.
  • Sleeping too much or too little.
  • Felt tired even after a whole night’s sleep.

There’s no reason to feel ashamed of your symptoms; you’re never alone. Many men believe discussing their difficulties won’t help, but this is untrue. Book a free discovery call today.

6 Facts About Rapid Transformational Therapy (RTT)

It could be that you have decided to work on an issue that you have been struggling with for sometime, or you might be in the early stages of researching the many different therapies that are available.

The truth is when searching online for therapy it can be a bit of a therapy minefield! There are so many different modalities of therapy and it is important that you find the therapy that best suits your needs and preferences.

Let us look at RTT.

What To Think About When You Are Considering RTT

As a Counsellor and RTT Hypnotherapist my advice is to think about what you would like to achieve from therapy. Questions you can explore are; is it important for you to discover how and when you acquired the issue, would you like fast results, and are you prepared to be invested in the process?

If you have answered YES to the above questions you may be interested in RTT. RTT is a powerful therapy that utilises the power of the mind to provide outstanding results.

RTT is an emerging non-invasive therapeutic option. RTT combines the principles of Psychotherapy, Hypnotherapy, Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), and Neuro-linguistic Programming (NLP).

This phenomenal therapy rewires the neural pathways of your brain, replacing outdated beliefs and negative behaviours that are causing the problems you are experiencing today. The life changing transformation begins as new healthy beliefs are formed

1. RTT is a Multi-Award Winning Therapy

Marisa Peer, world-renowned therapist, author, and international speaker spent 30 years developing and polishing RTT to get outstanding results. Marisa has been awarded multiple awards for her work including Best British Therapist in Men’s Health Magazine, and multiple Stevie Gold awards. Read more.

2. RTT helps with Psychological and Physical Issues

RTT has been generating impressive results worldwide. It has helped people struggling with a range of issues, from mild to severe in between 1 to 3 sessions with outstanding results.

  • Depression
  • Stress
  • AnxietyPhysical Pain
  • IBS
  • Sleep Issues
  • Fertility Problems
  • Confidence
  • Weight Management
  • Procrastination
  • Phobias
  • Addictions

3. RTT works with the Conscious and Sub-Conscious Mind

The RTT Method is not purely theoretical, as it involves a lot of practical working too. The foundation of RTT is to address the deep-rooted issues that are in the subconscious mind. RTT is more than just positive reinforcement. It focuses on the background of negative beliefs and behaviours.

RTT addresses the how, when, and why of the unhelpful beliefs,
RTT utilizes the leading scientific principles of neuroplasticity. This further enables the creation of new neural pathways. Read More.

RTT changes perceptions at a subconscious level. Think of positive suggestions as seeds which are planted in the subconscious mind. Those then allow positive, healthy beliefs to grow and flourish.

4. RTT and Science

Hypnosis is the foundation of RTT. The relaxing feeling you experience during hypnosis is your nervous system becoming quiet. It induces a calm state of mind, so the conscious and unconscious minds can communicate.

CBT will help you make sense of the problems you experiencing by assisting you to think of changes you can make to handle a situation. NLP works at a deeper level by changing the problematic patterns which might not be on the surface, but are underlying. This contributes in preventing the problems from appearing again.

Physical and emotional health are intimately interlinked, this connection is known as the mind-body connection. The body and the mind are not two different entities. Your chemistry and biology impact your mood and emotions.

You are most probably familiar with the feeling of your stomach in knots when you were stressed, or it can feel similar when you are excited. That’s the practical demonstration of mind-body connection!

5. RTT uses Regression to Quickly get to the Root Cause

The most significant difference between regular therapies and RTT is that the former deals with the conscious mind, whilst the latter works with the unconscious mind.

RTT discovers the origin of the beliefs that has led to the problem that is holding you back, and reframes the beliefs permanently. During an RTT session you can identify and let go of the problem and move forward with positive beliefs which can be life-changing.

6. RTT is a well Respected and Endorsed Therapy

RTT was meticulously developed, and has won multiple awards and honors.

Licensed RTT therapists have observed their clients overcome serious issues like past trauma, sleep issues, weight management, procrastination, and issues related to ADHD such as social anxiety and depression. RTT has helped people struggling with intrusive thoughts by breaking the negative cycle they get stuck in, and moving on faster and more effectively.

Check out the other organisations that have accredited RTT;

  • General Hypnotherapy Register
  • The National and International Council of Psychotherapists
  • The American Board of Hypnotherapy
  • The Complementary and Natural Healthcare Council
  • The International Institute of Complementary Therapists
  • The International Association of Complementary Therapists

Wrapping It All Up

If you are interested in how RTT can help with the issue that is keeping you stuck book a free discovery call here.

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