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8 Tips to Stop Being a People-Pleaser

What is People Pleasing?

People-pleasing is when a person commits themselves to meeting the needs, opinions, or requirements of others, to the detriment of their well-being.

A people-pleaser will go to great lengths to please other people, even at the cost of their own needs; this could be due to the fear of rejection, abandonment, or the desire to avoid conflict, or another person’s disappointment.

A people-pleaser wants to feel loved, safe, and secure.

What Makes a Person a People-Pleaser?

There are a number of reasons a person becomes a people-pleaser;

People-pleasing can develop because of childhood trauma, it could be that to feel safe and avoid conflict within the home, the child learned to protect themselves by going out of their way to appease their parent or caregiver.

The devoted love and attention or harsh criticism experienced as a child can have a lasting influence on a person’s world perspective.

If people-pleasing is something that a person has done since childhood, it becomes the norm for them, and this is frequently carried through to adulthood causing a whole host of problems.

Similarly, societal expectations that people should be passive and compliant might lead people to please people, there is also a cultural and generational element to the belief that if you please others you are polite, considerate, and generally a good person.

Sharon Martin writes about an evolutionary component to people-pleasing. Our early ancestors were known to form tribes so they could pull resources, and help protect each other. The more a person had to offer within the tribe, the more they would be protected. If they were not accepted in the tribe or community the more likely they were to die of being attacked by a predator, or of starvation.

What are the Consequences of Being a People-Pleaser?

Trying to make other people happy may, for a short time, ease tensions in social interactions, however, people-pleasing often results in unhelpful outcomes. The following are some of the most significant problems that can occur because of people’s good intentions.

Suppressed Emotions
When you consistently put the needs of others ahead of your own, one of the unintended consequences is that you learn to suppress your own emotions.

Stopping your feelings and putting another person’s needs before your own can result in physical health problems such as digestive problems, headaches, and muscle pains. A person’s mental health has a direct link to their physical health.

Reduced Self-Worth
You can risk losing your sense of self when you are frequently influenced to accept things from another person’s perspective or adapt to suit another person’s preferences. A people-pleaser may find it difficult to construct long-lasting and deep relationships as they are not allowing the other person to get to know their authentic self.

People-pleasing can result in feelings of shame if a person behaves in a way that is not in alignment with their values, in order to please another person.

Exploitative Relationships
People who tend to be more passive or considerate can put themselves in harm’s way by allowing others to take advantage of their kindness or lack of boundaries. This may lead to a vicious circle of misunderstandings and hostility between the parties.

Stress and Burnout
Constantly putting the requirements of others ahead of your own may result in stress and burnout; both are detrimental to your mental and physical health and should be avoided at all costs.

The Connection between People-Pleasing and Resentment

You can become resentful if you try too hard to make others happy in various ways. People who routinely put the needs of others before their own could one day find that they struggle to articulate dissatisfaction or displeasure. It can be the case that a people-please can lose sight of what makes them happy.

We all want to see our friends and family happy, but when you continually sacrifice your own needs to do this, it won’t take long for you to feel resentment develop.

When individuals fail to meet the standards set by others, people pleasers often experience feelings of regret and humiliation. This can instigate critical self-talk and feelings of “not good enough”.

Breaking Free from People-Pleasing

1. Self-Reflection:
Reflect on what motivates your drive to attempt to improve the lives of others around you. The first step in implementing change is recognising and managing the factors that previously prevented you from progressing.

2. Boundaries:
The ability to set boundaries is an important life skill that we should all learn; it’s acceptable to put our needs above those of others, so don’t feel guilty about it!

3. Assertiveness:
Be assertive; let people know your needs, preferences, and goals. Through open and honest conversation, working on existing resentment or conflicts and strengthening relationships with others is possible. Learning how to be assertive will help you in your personal and professional life.

4. Mindfulness and Emotional Awareness:
One benefit of regular mindfulness practice is gaining a deeper understanding and tolerance of your feelings. Recognise that your feelings are genuine and deserving of being expressed. Journalling can help increase self-awareness and provide time to reflect.

5. Embrace Conversation:
Try to see differences of opinion not as something to be avoided but as an opportunity for personal development and improvement. Learning to engage in healthy debates may benefit the quality of your relationships and keep your mind active.

6. Seek Support:

Be proactive and get help by discussing your issues with family members or a professional counsellor. If you want to overcome your tendency to please others, having a solid support system may be one of the most important things you can do.

7. Self-Care
Self-care is scheduling time for fun and calming activities. If you take care of your physical and mental health, you could find that you can regulate your emotions better, get to know yourself and what you like and dislike, and get a clearer idea of what’s okay.

8. Self-Compassion
Treat yourself with kindness and compassion, acknowledging that you deserve love and respect.

Wrapping it all Up

Remember that the path away from people-pleasing tendencies requires patience and self-compassion. Learning to prioritise your needs and communicating your feelings in an uninhibited manner may lead to a stronger sense of inner calm and emotional resilience, particularly in the middle of conflict.

Giving up trying to please others is not the same as being selfish; instead, it is putting one’s health and happiness first and learning to value one’s perspective. Doing so allows you and others to develop more meaningful connections with one another and yourself.

If you would like to stop people-pleasing, but feel you need some support Clear Haven Therapy can help with this! Book a free Discovery Call.

The Importance of Therapy for Men: Exploring its Impact

Regardless of gender, anyone can be affected by mental health issues.

Regardless of gender, anyone can be affected by mental health issues. However, fewer men are still seeking therapy; let’s examine why this is the case.

It is a fact that men experience the same challenges as women, including anxiety, depression, relationship issues, and trauma. However, these issues can present differently for men. For example, depression may show as anger due to men tending to suppress emotions. Suppressed emotions contribute to mental health issues such as anxiety, depression, and stress.

Physical issues, such as headaches, digestive problems, and muscle tension, can also result from suppressed emotions.  A 2019 study concludes that concealing one’s emotions can hinder mental health, physical health and general well-being.

Case Study

I recently worked with a client who contacted me due to struggling with social anxiety and low self-esteem. We worked together for six weeks, and at the end of this time, the client left therapy knowing their worth which changed everything for them.

The client opted for an RTT hypnotherapy session; during regression, they returned to an incident that occurred at school when they were aged 8. They spoke about a time they could not answer a question in front of the class; they felt shamed and humiliated before their teacher and peers. The incident left the client feeling profoundly embarrassed and feeling like a failure. After the session, the client spoke about vaguely remembering the incident and feeling embarrassed whenever they thought about it. However, they did not recognise that what they experienced then deeply continued to influence how they felt about themselves today, which was that they were not good enough.

Working through the emotions associated with this experience and reframing outdated beliefs was life-transforming for this client.

Therapy for Men – The Statistics

It is not unusual for men to mask the symptoms of depression as they will take an “I just need to get on with it” approach. However, this can encourage unhealthy coping mechanisms such as drinking alcohol, substance misuse, pornography addiction, or gambling.

When these unhelpful coping strategies become “the problem”, men will recognise they need help, and at this point, their mental health may have declined significantly.

Statistics demonstrate that men’s mental health is something that requires more attention.

  •  The Office of National Statistics (ONS) 2021 states that 74% of death by suicide cases are men.
  •  In England and Wales, suicide is the most significant cause of death for men under 50.
  •  The Institute of Alcohol Studies (IAS) 2020,  men of all ages are likelier to become alcohol dependent than women.
  •  Men are more likely to be experiencing homelessness and be rough sleepers, and at the end of 2022, 96.2% of all prisoners were men.
  • NHS England’s Improving Access to Psychological Therapies (IAPT) states that in 2019/20 it recorded 65% of women,   compared to 35% of men, were referred to psychological services.

These statistics highlight the need to change society’s perception of men seeking therapy.

Why Some Men Struggle to Seek Help: Understanding the Barriers of Therapy for Men

Let’s consider WHY some men find it difficult to seek therapy.

Societal Gender Norms
Society has thoughts about how men should be – “strong, self-reliant, assertive, powerful”. These expectations can make it more challenging for men to reach out for support and instead mask or suppress any symptoms that suggest they are not coping.

If a man has adopted unhealthy coping strategies, there may be guilt, shame, or self-disgust, making sharing this with another person even more difficult. However, reaching out for help is a sign of strength and courage, and in therapy, you can learn how to work through any shame attached to what is going on for you.

One significant roadblock that prevents men from seeking therapy is the stigma around mental health issues. As a society, we have the power to change this. It takes courage, but only when men talk about their mental health and talk about reaching out for therapy or other support will it become normalised. After all, you go to the gym to work on your physical health; working on your mental health is the same!

Fear of Vulnerability
What would it look like to reveal a side of yourself that isn’t always confident, courageous, and strong? Vulnerability is sharing your thoughts, emotions, feelings, and experiences with another person. It is like removing your armour and allowing another person to see your authentic self, your softer side. Allowing yourself to be vulnerable with those closest to you can deepen and strengthen relationships.

Finding a Therapist
The gender of a therapist is not important; you must find a therapist you feel safe and comfortable with. I work with many men in my therapy practice, and I recommend that you check if a therapist is comfortable working with male-related issues.

Let’s Now Discuss the Advantages of Therapy for Men

Therapy offers men a safe space to openly discuss their concerns and express themselves freely without fear of rejection.

In therapy, men can learn how to practice healthy coping strategies such as emotional regulation, meditation, grounding exercises, journalling, assertive communication, and implementing boundaries.

A therapist allows men the space to manage past issues that may impact their lives today.

Alternatively, some men prefer to focus on what is happening for them in the here and now rather than revisit past experiences. What you would like to gain from therapy is something you can talk through during a discovery call as you want to ensure that a therapist works in a way that you will find most helpful.

  • Being a Good Example

By going to therapy, you convey to others, including your friends and family, that taking care of your mental health is FINE.

Being open and honest about seeking help could inspire others to adopt your outlook and encourage the growth of a society where discussing emotions can be done more freely.

  • Strengthening Relationships

Effectively managing emotions can help build healthy and fulfilling relationships.

People tend to have closer relationships with their loved ones, members of their families, and close friends when they are aware of their own emotions and can empathise with others.

  • Improves Job Performance

The workplace is known to be a place that can be challenging when one is already struggling with their mental health. Therapy can help reduce work-related stress and anxiety, improve job performance, and it can help with enhancing communication and teamwork skills.

When To Seek Therapy

If you have any of the following symptoms, it may be a good idea to consider therapy:

  • Been more easily irritated than usual.
  • Experienced bursts of anger or aggression.
  • Felt sad or down.
  • Felt overwhelmed or under much pressure.
  • Unexpectedly gained or lost weight.
  • Started drinking or using drugs more frequently than before.
  • Been relying on alcohol or drugs to cope with a challenging situation.
  • Lost interest in activities you used to enjoy.
  • Struggled to concentrate at work, school, or home.
  • Had more headaches or days of feeling generally unwell.
  • Sleeping too much or too little.
  • Felt tired even after a whole night’s sleep.

There’s no reason to feel ashamed of your symptoms; you’re never alone. Many men believe discussing their difficulties won’t help, but this is untrue. Book a free discovery call today.

Understanding and Managing Shame for Personal Growth

What is the True Meaning of Shame?

Shame can be a complex emotion to manage, as it is an intense and pervasive emotion that can make people feel fundamentally flawed. When people feel shame, they may believe they are inadequate, unworthy, or not good enough.

Shame is founded on self-judgment; if a person has insecurities, they may feel embarrassed or humiliated if these insecurities are highlighted or exposed. It can occur when a person feels they fall short of their own or others’ expectations or have a lingering sense of “Is someone judging me?”.

What is the Difference between Guilt and Shame?

Many people use guilt and shame interchangeably as they are similar but different emotions despite some overlaps. For instance, both are conscious emotions ignited by negative self-evaluation.

Shame is about having a negative sense of self, having low self-esteem, and believing you are, at the core, a terrible person. In contrast, guilt is feeling like you have done something wrong, made a bad decision, or made a mistake. Berne Brown describes shame as being based on self, “I am bad”, whereas guilt is based on behaviour “I did something bad”.

Many studies have examined the physical and emotional effects of guilt and shame. Research has demonstrated a link between shame-proneness and psychiatric problems such as depression, anxiety, eating disorders, and substance misuse. The results have not revealed a common link between guilt-proneness and psychiatric problems.

Why did we Evolve to Feel Shame?

(Sznycer et al., 2016) tested the theory that shame evolved as a defence against being devalued by others. The finding concluded that across cultures, there is a link between shame and devaluation.

If we rewind the years, our early ancestors depended on being valued by others for survival. The community’s most valued members would get food, help to look after their children, and were more likely to be cared for and protected than their lesser-valued peers.

To be valued within the community, it was necessary to have attributes that would appeal to others, such as being strong, a dangerous enemy, a potential partner, and trustworthy. If it was discovered that you were, for example, diseased, physically weak, or untrustworthy, you would be devalued and more likely to come to harm.

Our ancestors worked hard to be valued within the community. This may have involved hiding disease or blaming others for their acts, but it was necessary for survival. Today, shame motivates us to conform to societal norms, to fit in, and to be liked and respected by others.

When is Shame Not Helpful?

Shame is not helpful when it becomes toxic. Toxic shame is when a person becomes overly self-critical, experiences self-disgust or demeans themselves in other ways. This can often be the result of childhood abuse, trauma or having parents or caregivers who were emotionally unavailable.

Toxic shame can be extremely difficult for a person to manage; if self-help techniques or confiding in a friend doesn’t ease the shame, it would be recommended to seek professional help.

What does Shame do to the Body?

When a person feels shame, it starts a complex chain of events that affects many bodily systems, physically and psychologically. Science supports the impact shame has on the body.

Here’s a breakdown of how shame impacts the body:

Emotional Response: It often leads to feelings of unworthiness and disappointment and can trigger a desire to escape or hide from others.

Stress Response: The body’s stress reaction, also known as the “fight or flight” response, is triggered by shame.

This includes the adrenal glands releasing stress hormones, including cortisol and adrenaline.

These hormones raise heart rate, blood pressure, and attentiveness to prepare the body to react to a threat.

Increased heart rate: The heart beats to pump blood to muscles and essential organs faster.
Elevated blood pressure: Blood vessels constrict, which increases blood pressure and improves oxygen delivery.
Rapid breathing: Breathing more quickly helps the body prepare for physical activity by oxygenating the blood.
Muscle tension: Muscles tighten in preparation for potential movement or defence.
Dilated pupils: The pupils enlarge to allow more light and improve visual focus.
Sweating: The body sweats to help regulate temperature during heightened activity.
Digestive changes: Blood flow may decrease to the digestive system, leading to digestive discomfort or a “butterflies in the stomach” feeling.

Impact on the Immune System: Over time, prolonged or severe shame may weaken the immune system, increasing the body’s vulnerability to disease.

Cognitive Changes: The impacts of shame on cognitive processes include ruminating thoughts and making bad decisions. The ability to concentrate and focus may also be troublesome.

Neurological Impact: According to neuroimaging research shame causes the brain’s negative emotions, self-perception, and social evaluation regions to become active. Some of these regions are the prefrontal cortex, anterior cingulate cortex, and insula.

The effects of shame can differ from person to person and may depend on elements like personal coping methods, resilience, and social support.

How Can I Manage Shame?

Here are some practical ways to make you feel better about yourself and effectively manage shame.

Talk About It
A conversation with a relative or close friend you trust can make all the difference. Sharing your thoughts can make you feel better and open your eyes to new lights.

You never know when the person you trust will come up with a brilliant idea, offer an ear of understanding, or be there for you. You feel less alone and more understood since it’s like having a friend by your side.

Challenge any Negative Thoughts
Shame often brings along negative and critical thoughts about yourself. It’s important to challenge these thoughts.

Ask yourself if they are based on facts or if you’re being too hard on yourself. Try to reframe these thoughts in a more balanced and realistic way.

For example, if you’re thinking, “I’m a complete failure,” try changing it to “I am brave enough to make changes; my setback makes me stronger.”

Be Kind to Yourself
Here’s a little tip: You can be your own best friend. Imagine how you would talk to your best friend when they are going through a tough time – that’s how you should treat yourself, too. Show yourself the same kindness and compassion that you would show your friend. We all mess up and have tough days, and it’s part of being human.

So, try not to be too harsh on yourself while feeling low.

Say, “Hey, it’s okay; I’m only human,” and go on. Allow these feelings to come up without judging them as good or bad.

You deserve kindness and a helping hand, especially when things are tough. Give yourself a warm hug from within, or you can go all out and give yourself a big bear hug!

Learn and Grow
Yes, even mistakes can serve as your hidden weapon for getting better. Shame can help us define our boundaries and act within social norms. This is when shame can be healthy!

Think for a bit about what you can do differently the next time. How can you make the most of this scenario for yourself?

Switching your focus like this opens the door to growth and feeling strong. So, let’s kick that shame aside and stride forward!

Mindfulness and Breathing
So, pause and take some slow, deep breaths when shame starts showing up. Practice square breathing to help calm your central nervous system and distract you from your thoughts. Just a 10-minute practice can help tame your feelings of shame.

Positive Self-Talk
Pay attention to how you talk to yourself. If you are critical, switch those negative thoughts to positive and encouraging ones.

It’s essential to remind yourself often of your successes, the good things about you, and times when you overcame challenging situations.

You can better control those “shame” feelings by creating a positive inner conversation.

When using positive self-talk, tell yourself:

“My mistakes don’t define my worth; what matters is how I grow and learn from them.”

“I, especially myself, deserve kindness and understanding.”

“I have faith in my ability to thrive in the face of hardship.”

“I deserve respect and love, most importantly from myself.”

If you use this practice, you’ll be better able to manage such stressful situations. Your resilience and sense of self-worth grow as an outcome.

Wrapping it all up

Accept positive thinking, develop self-confidence, and practise mindfulness.

Turn around negative situations and take lessons from mistakes. You deserve compassion, respect, love, and progress.

Let go of the grip of shame and walk proudly in your worth. Your journey towards strength and self-love begins today. If you feel you need professional help book a free discovery call today.

Understanding Anger Management: Issues For Personal Growth

Why do I get so angry?

Humans naturally experience anger as a reaction to perceived threats, injustices, or irritations. In the face of anger, our bodies activate the fight or flight response, and a surge of stress hormones such as adrenaline and cortisol are released from the adrenal glands and flood through our bodies.

A sudden surge of hormones induces a whole host of physical bodily changes, such as an increased heart rate, excessive sweating, tense muscles, a headache, or a sudden need to use the toilet.

Anger can range from a feeling of mild irritation to full-blown rage. When people consider themselves to have anger management issues, typical terms often used to describe the feelings of anger are; I feel my blood boil, I go from 0 to 100 in less than a second, I see red, or I fly off the handle.

Typically, the thoughts, feelings, and bodily responses present so quickly that it is not unusual to believe that managing this is outwith your control. However, the good news is that this is not the case; with the correct techniques and strategies, you can learn how to overcome anger issues.

How we manage our anger can significantly impact our mental and physical health, so it is essential to address what is going on for you if you have anger issues; furthermore, anger can cause many problems with relationships, family, and work. You could get into altercations, resulting in problems with the Police.

The next time you ask yourself, ‘Why do I get so angry, ‘it might be worth considering some help. Looking at my other blogs, I have listed some self-help techniques that can be an excellent place to start. You can contact Clear Haven Therapy if you would benefit from a professional service.

Different ways of expressing anger

Passive Anger

Suppressing or rejecting rage-related sensations is considered passive-aggressive anger.

People can use subtle behaviours like silent treatment, sarcasm, or passive-aggressive statements instead of overt displays of rage.

Passive Aggressive anger frequently shows itself subtly and indirectly; passive rage can be difficult to identify.

Chronic Anger

A long-lasting state of rage, when people continually feel angry and resentful, is called chronic anger.

Unresolved problems, ongoing pressures, or a gloomy view of life might all be the cause.

One’s general well-being, interpersonal connections, and quality of life are all affected by persistent anger.

Self-Inflicted Anger

Rage aimed toward oneself is known as self-inflicted or self-directed anger. Emotions including self-blame, self-criticism, shame, guilt, or unworthiness characterise self-inflicted anger.

Self-Inflicted anger can lead to low self-esteem and other harmful behaviours.

Behavioural Anger

Aggressive and explosive behaviour is one way a person will express behavioural rage. These actions include yelling, abusive language, physical harm, or destruction of property.

Impulse control issues and difficulties in good anger management are shared by those who experience behavioural rage.

Constructive Anger

A person can express anger positively. Constructive anger encourages people to fight for change, speak out against injustices, and do other positive actions that advance society.

Effectively controlled, constructive rage may help you stand up for your beliefs, leading to positive change for yourself and others.

Typical bodily responses to anger

1. Increased heart rate and blood pressure

Anger ignites the fight-or-flight response, which also causes physiological changes, including a racing heart and raised blood pressure.

2. Muscle tension and clenched fists

Anger frequently causes muscles to tense up, particularly those in the shoulders, neck, and jaw. When a person is angry, they can clench their fists.

3. Irritability, restlessness, or a short temper

People who tend to be more readily irritated, easily agitated, and ready to respond aggressively or defensively. They can have a fuse that is shorter than typical.

4. Racing thoughts or difficulty concentrating

Anger may obscure judgment, making it challenging to focus, reason through decisions, or have effective conversations.

5. Sweating and flushed face

Anger causes an increase in blood pressure, and this can show when a person sweats or has a flushed face.

6. Elevated levels of stress or anxiety

Anger can cause a person to feel stressed and worried, which can harm one’s mental and emotional health.

7. Difficulty sleeping or insomnia

It may be difficult to fall asleep or stay asleep all night due to anger distorting sleep patterns.

Physical Exercise can help you to release anger, and it is good for your overall mental health.

Exploring how to overcome anger

1. Deep breathing and relaxation techniques

Breathing deeply and slowly can improve the body’s relaxation response when anger is present.

2. Identify triggers

Anger may be managed or avoided by developing coping mechanisms for the particular people, things, or circumstances that set it off.

It could entail creating clear boundaries, developing constructive communication techniques, or changing one’s way of life to cope with the press.

3. Communication and assertiveness

Anger may be controlled by assertively and respectfully expressing feelings and concerns. To effectively communicate, one must actively listen to others, convey emotions using “I” statements, and look for compromises or solutions that satisfy everyone’s requirements.

4. Cognitive restructuring

Negative thinking patterns and ideas can serve as fuel for anger. One can use cognitive restructuring strategies to question and reframe these unhelpful thoughts.

Reframing these thoughts involves:

  • Putting one’s preconceptions under investigation.
  • Looking for alternate answers.
  • Adopting a more logical and impartial viewpoint.

5. Physical activity

Regular physical activity like running, yoga, or martial arts may help you release anger and improve your overall health. Endorphins are naturally occurring mood enhancers released during physical Exercise and can help lower stress and tension.

6. Seeking professional help

If anger continues to impact everyday living, it may be time to seek professional help from a counsellor or hypnotherapist who specialises in working with anger management issues. Here’s an anger management manual for you.

Book a free discovery call to find out how Clear Haven Therapy can help you resolve your Anger Management Issues.

Hypnotherapy for a Virtual Gastric Band

Have you been struggling to maintain a healthy weight for some time?

Have you been struggling to maintain a healthy weight for some time? Are you constantly on a diet but craving the foods you love? If this sounds like you, you may want to learn more about hypnotherapy for a virtual gastric band. A virtual gastric band is a non-evasive alternative to dieting; research has proven it a successful form of weight management.

If you close your eyes, can you visualise a slimmer and healthier version of yourself? If the answer is YES, virtual gastric band therapy may be for you.

Do you feel that you are on a loop of yo-yo dieting?

Have you tried many diets and exercise regimes to achieve weight loss goals? There are so many other diets out there, and you will probably lose weight with most diets if you restrict your food intake.

However, maintaining your ideal weight can be difficult if you deprive yourself of the foods you enjoy. Understandably, this can result in you being unable to stick to the diet long-term.

Depriving yourself of the foods you love can contribute to you getting caught up in a loop of yo-yo dieting. Another big problem with yo-yo dieting is that you frequently lower your metabolic rate and then bring it back to normal, which can impact your metabolism by reducing it permanently.

Weight Management Goals

RTT Virtual Gastric Band Hypnotherapy is a hybrid therapy. Your RTT therapist will use the specialist techniques of Hypnosis, Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), and Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) to make your weight management goals much easier to achieve than relying on willpower alone.

Hypnotherapy for a Virtual Gastric Band – why is it different to dieting?

When looking for healthy permanent change, it is helpful to look beyond what you eat and focus on ‘why’ you tend to overeat. Discovering why you fill will provide you with the ‘magic key’, opening the door to permanent change.

You are most probably not consciously aware of why you overeat. The beliefs around your weight were likely formed in childhood. However, in hypnosis, you will communicate with the subconscious mind and locate outdated ideas. These obsolete beliefs will be removed during RTT hypnotherapy, and new healthy beliefs will be installed.

Virtual Gastric Band hypnotherapy serves as an alternate to achieve easy weight loss, it will enable you to leave yo-yo dieting behind, and you will learn to eat intuitively. You were born able to know when and how much to eat; let’s reactivate that. It is time to focus inwardly and listen to YOUR body. Distinguish between mind hunger and body hunger.

To achieve permanent change, you need to desire to take charge of your life and health and be prepared to engage in the process thoroughly. RTT can help you get the authority and control over your negative habits and the self-discipline you need

Hypnotherapy for a Virtual Gastric Band – what does it involve?

The science that supports hypnotherapy for a virtual gastric band

Using your mind’s creative potential to tell ‘yourself’ how you wish to be is the essence of hypnosis. Virtual gastric band hypnotherapy takes effort on your part too. You must show a commitment level and listen to a hypnosis recording for 21 days following the session.

Research demonstrates Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) coupled with hypnosis is a highly successful weight loss technique.

Rapid Transformational Therapy (RTT) is a hybrid therapy that draws on CBT’s most powerful elements, Hypnosis and NLP. You can shed weight quickly and permanently by utilising the specialist tools of RTT hypnotherapy.

A meta-analysis of 18 studies demonstrated that when hypnosis was used in conjunction with CBT, participants showed a 70% improvement over using CBT alone to shed weight. Notably, after long-term follow-up, the participants who used hypnosis with CBT continued to sustain or lose weight. Read More.

Gastric band hypnosis is an effective non-surgical, and much cheaper alternative to weight loss surgery. During hypnosis, you will persuade your subconscious mind that you have a gastric band wrapped around your stomach. Virtual gastric band therapy is a non-invasive technique that provides the advantages of gastric band surgery without the risk of adverse consequences.

Through regression hypnosis, you will review food or weight-related incidents that may impact you here and now. Additionally, your therapist can aid in identifying patterns, responses, or behaviours you may not be consciously aware of.

The science is that your body will react to positive suggestions by instructing you to feel less hungry as it would if you had undergone surgery. The concept behind a virtual gastric band is to assist you in making long-term lifestyle changes instead of dieting and relying on willpower alone.

How does this differ from a Medical Gastric Band?

A medical gastric band is an adjustable silicone band used in weight loss surgery which can be carried out privately or on occasion by the NHS. As with any medical procedure, it comes with risks and is costly; prices in the UK start at around 5k. During surgery, the surgeon will make a little pouch above the device. The band is wrapped over the top portion of your stomach, making consuming vast amounts of food uncomfortable because your stomach can only hold so much. Learn more about surgical versus virtual gastric band.

Virtual Gastric Band Therapy – the process

You will be put into hypnosis using relaxing techniques; you will be in complete control throughout and will never do or say anything you don’t want to. The RTT therapist will then direct your subconscious mind to work in alignment with your conscious mind around your dietary habits by sending signals from one part of the brain to the other. This idea is that you’ve had a band physically fitted when using gastric band hypnosis.

Your behaviour will alter if your subconscious acknowledges these recommendations since the mind is powerful. Behaviour tips are frequently given simultaneously with the “fitting” of the virtual gastric band to assist you in committing to this lifestyle change.

To help you continue working on your goals after the session, your RTT therapist will provide you with a bespoke MP3 audio recording for 21 days to strengthen these new neural pathways created during the RTT process.

If you would like to arrange a free discovery call to discuss virtual gastric band hypnotherapy, Clear Haven Therapy are happy to help you reach your weight loss goals!

6 Facts About Rapid Transformational Therapy (RTT)

It could be that you have decided to work on an issue that you have been struggling with for sometime, or you might be in the early stages of researching the many different therapies that are available.

The truth is when searching online for therapy it can be a bit of a therapy minefield! There are so many different modalities of therapy and it is important that you find the therapy that best suits your needs and preferences.

Let us look at RTT.

What To Think About When You Are Considering RTT

As a Counsellor and RTT Hypnotherapist my advice is to think about what you would like to achieve from therapy. Questions you can explore are; is it important for you to discover how and when you acquired the issue, would you like fast results, and are you prepared to be invested in the process?

If you have answered YES to the above questions you may be interested in RTT. RTT is a powerful therapy that utilises the power of the mind to provide outstanding results.

RTT is an emerging non-invasive therapeutic option. RTT combines the principles of Psychotherapy, Hypnotherapy, Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), and Neuro-linguistic Programming (NLP).

This phenomenal therapy rewires the neural pathways of your brain, replacing outdated beliefs and negative behaviours that are causing the problems you are experiencing today. The life changing transformation begins as new healthy beliefs are formed

1. RTT is a Multi-Award Winning Therapy

Marisa Peer, world-renowned therapist, author, and international speaker spent 30 years developing and polishing RTT to get outstanding results. Marisa has been awarded multiple awards for her work including Best British Therapist in Men’s Health Magazine, and multiple Stevie Gold awards. Read more.

2. RTT helps with Psychological and Physical Issues

RTT has been generating impressive results worldwide. It has helped people struggling with a range of issues, from mild to severe in between 1 to 3 sessions with outstanding results.

  • Depression
  • Stress
  • AnxietyPhysical Pain
  • IBS
  • Sleep Issues
  • Fertility Problems
  • Confidence
  • Weight Management
  • Procrastination
  • Phobias
  • Addictions

3. RTT works with the Conscious and Sub-Conscious Mind

The RTT Method is not purely theoretical, as it involves a lot of practical working too. The foundation of RTT is to address the deep-rooted issues that are in the subconscious mind. RTT is more than just positive reinforcement. It focuses on the background of negative beliefs and behaviours.

RTT addresses the how, when, and why of the unhelpful beliefs,
RTT utilizes the leading scientific principles of neuroplasticity. This further enables the creation of new neural pathways. Read More.

RTT changes perceptions at a subconscious level. Think of positive suggestions as seeds which are planted in the subconscious mind. Those then allow positive, healthy beliefs to grow and flourish.

4. RTT and Science

Hypnosis is the foundation of RTT. The relaxing feeling you experience during hypnosis is your nervous system becoming quiet. It induces a calm state of mind, so the conscious and unconscious minds can communicate.

CBT will help you make sense of the problems you experiencing by assisting you to think of changes you can make to handle a situation. NLP works at a deeper level by changing the problematic patterns which might not be on the surface, but are underlying. This contributes in preventing the problems from appearing again.

Physical and emotional health are intimately interlinked, this connection is known as the mind-body connection. The body and the mind are not two different entities. Your chemistry and biology impact your mood and emotions.

You are most probably familiar with the feeling of your stomach in knots when you were stressed, or it can feel similar when you are excited. That’s the practical demonstration of mind-body connection!

5. RTT uses Regression to Quickly get to the Root Cause

The most significant difference between regular therapies and RTT is that the former deals with the conscious mind, whilst the latter works with the unconscious mind.

RTT discovers the origin of the beliefs that has led to the problem that is holding you back, and reframes the beliefs permanently. During an RTT session you can identify and let go of the problem and move forward with positive beliefs which can be life-changing.

6. RTT is a well Respected and Endorsed Therapy

RTT was meticulously developed, and has won multiple awards and honors.

Licensed RTT therapists have observed their clients overcome serious issues like past trauma, sleep issues, weight management, procrastination, and issues related to ADHD such as social anxiety and depression. RTT has helped people struggling with intrusive thoughts by breaking the negative cycle they get stuck in, and moving on faster and more effectively.

Check out the other organisations that have accredited RTT;

  • General Hypnotherapy Register
  • The National and International Council of Psychotherapists
  • The American Board of Hypnotherapy
  • The Complementary and Natural Healthcare Council
  • The International Institute of Complementary Therapists
  • The International Association of Complementary Therapists

Wrapping It All Up

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