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8 Self-Esteem Tips for University Students with ADHD

8 Self-Esteem Tips for University Students with ADHD

Self-esteem is a person’s overall sense of value and self-worth, profoundly influencing every aspect of life. For university students with ADHD, improving self-esteem is particularly important. High self-esteem can enhance your academic success and social interactions, optimising your university experience.

Understanding Self-Esteem  

High self-esteem impacts academic success, relationships, career choices, personal growth, and happiness. For students with ADHD, developing self-confidence strategies is essential to increasing self-esteem. 

If you have high self-esteem, you will recognise your strengths, be comfortable with your flaws, and have the resilience to manage setbacks or criticisms.

Low self-esteem may manifest as a negative view of yourself, uncertainty about your opinions and abilities, challenges in decision-making, and poor response to criticism.

Even if you haven’t been formally diagnosed with ADHD, you may recognise many of its traits in yourself. Not all adults choose to pursue an official ADHD diagnosis, as it’s a personal decision based on individual circumstances and preferences. As a Counsellor and ADHD Coach, I focus on tackling the challenges posed by these traits, aiming to enhance your quality of life and make daily living more manageable.

If you are a university student with ADHD, this blog will help you optimise your self-esteem, enabling you to succeed academically and socially throughout your university years. 

Smiling university student with ADHD feeling confident and happy while holding study books, representing self-esteem tips for students with ADHD

Case Study: Work on Self-Esteem with Megan

In a recent coaching session, I worked with Megan, a student who identified “adaptability” as one of her key strengths. Megan shared a story about planning a trip with a friend who cancelled at short notice. Despite feeling disappointed, Megan decided to continue the trip as a sole traveller, which was an amazingly empowering experience.

During coaching, we discussed how this situation highlighted her adaptability and showcased her strengths in decision-making, resilience, and independence—critical factors in increasing self-esteem and boosting confidence.

Recognising these strengths helped Megan, who was uncertain about her academic journey, gain clarity and increase her self-confidence. Consequently, she has made significant progress in her academic success.

This example illustrates how identifying and embracing your strengths can enhance self-esteem and equip you to overcome challenges effectively, contributing to tremendous academic success.

8 Academic Success Tips for Improve Self-Esteem

1. ADHD and Embracing Your Strengths

You can boost your self-esteem by embracing your unique strengths. You will have many strengths, but if you have low self-esteem, you may need to recognise them. Take a moment to appreciate and embrace your strengths, talents and capabilities.

It could be your creative thinking, ability to hyperfocus, lateral solid thinking skills, engaging communication, or natural spontaneity. Embracing these qualities can elevate your self-esteem and empower you to approach life confidently.

To identify your strengths, try jotting them down on paper or use downloadable worksheets. Reflect on moments where you’ve actively used these strengths; visualising specific events can help you recall them in detail.

As you do this, you may uncover additional strengths featured during those times. If you consider thoughtfulness a strength, revisit a memory where you demonstrated thoughtfulness. Reflect on what other strengths you displayed at that moment.

2. Set Goals as a Student with ADHD

Setting goals can give you, as a student with ADHD, a clear sense of direction, making it much easier to navigate your academic and personal journey effectively. Think of goals as your signposts. They aren’t rigid; they can adapt and change as new opportunities come your way. They serve as a solid starting point but leave room for exploring new and exciting pathways.

Avoid placing limitations on your abilities. Whether you want to achieve something academically or personally, please write it down or visualise yourself succeeding. Divide big goals into smaller, achievable tasks to sustain momentum and monitor progress.

Celebrate each task completed with self-praise and acknowledge the sense of empowerment it brings. Use these achievements as the motivation to continue towards your larger goals.

Consider obstacles as part of the process and approach them with self-compassion rather than viewing them as setbacks and failures. Reframe challenges as opportunities for personal growth, reinforcing your resilience and determination.

3. Finding Your Voice: Advocate for Yourself

ADHD can affect your communication skills, especially if you have articulation disorders that affect speech and language. You might find it challenging to organise your thoughts clearly or need help with pronunciation, making it difficult to express yourself effectively.

Sometimes, you might interrupt others or speak impulsively, leading to misunderstandings and frustrating communication.

These challenges can affect your confidence in communicating with others. However, understanding these difficulties and getting the proper support, such as speech therapy or counselling, can help you improve your self-esteem and communication skills.

Remember, your voice matters; your unique perspective and experiences value every conversation and situation. Advocating for yourself is a powerful way to increase self-esteem and boost confidence.

You assert your self-worth by standing up for your needs, preferences, and boundaries. Consistently doing this reinforces the belief that you are capable, deserving, and worthy of respect, ultimately improving your self-esteem.

  • Identify your Communication Barriers:  Recognising these barriers can help you develop strategies to overcome them and enhance your communication skills.
  • Identify your needs:  Understand what accommodations you require, such as a quieter workspace, extended deadlines, or assistive technology.  Knowing your needs well helps you to prepare ahead of time.
  • Schedule a Meeting:  Arrange a meeting with the relevant person (lecturer, course supervisor or student support team)
  • Communicate Clearly: Explain your ADHD and how the challenges can impact your academic success. Use “I” statements to express your needs. For example: “I work best in a quiet environment,” “I need extra time to process information”. Be specific; do your research so you know what help is available.
  • Offer Solutions and Compromise:  Be prepared to suggest solutions and be open to compromise.
  • Build Confidence:  Practice the conversation beforehand to build confidence. You can do this by using a journal, practising with a friend, or rehearsing the conversation using a voice recording app.

4. Building Resilience

Resilience refers to your capacity to work through difficulties, adapt to challenging situations, and become stronger through adversity.

As a student with ADHD, building resilience is especially important. It helps you manage challenges like attention difficulties, staying organised, and controlling impulses.

Resilience allows one to see challenges as opportunities for growth and stay motivated even when things get tough. It also helps one handle stress better, keeps one’s mindset positive, and improves problem-solving skills.

Resilience encourages taking care of yourself and prevents you from feeling isolated.

To enhance resilience, aim to maintain a positive outlook, seek solutions to challenges, learn from your experiences, and cultivate a network of supportive friends, family, and mentors. Strengthening these abilities will aid in your academic and personal success.

5.  Emotional Regulation

Emotional regulation can significantly help students with ADHD build self-esteem. Managing emotions effectively allows you to respond to challenges calmly and thoughtfully, reducing impulsive reactions that might lead to regret or negative self-talk.

You can better control emotional responses and confidently navigate social interactions by developing skills like mindfulness, diaphragmatic breathing, grounding techniques, and cognitive reframing.

When you handle stressful situations well, you reinforce a positive self-image and demonstrate to yourself that you are capable and resilient.

This self-assurance enhances self-esteem, making facing new challenges and pursuing personal goals easier. Focusing on emotional regulation creates a stable foundation for improved self-worth and overall well-being.

6. Adopt A Healthy Lifestyle

Maintaining a healthy lifestyle is vital for enhancing self-esteem. Good nutrition, regular exercise, and mindfulness practices like meditation can significantly impact your mental and physical well-being.

Planning your days helps you maintain a regular routine. Check out my blog for daily planning tips to assist students.

7. Social Engagement

Social interactions are significant for boosting your self-esteem, especially if you have ADHD. Positive interactions validate you, give you feedback, and make you feel like you belong. They counteract any feelings of isolation or doubt you might have.

When you engage with supportive friends and family members, you receive encouragement that strengthens your confidence and self-worth.

By nurturing meaningful relationships and building a support network, you can experience higher self-esteem and overall well-being as a student with ADHD, boosting your overall well-being and academic success.

8. Meet your Role Models

Consider who you admire most, whether a family member, a peer, or someone in the public eye. Their accomplishments and personal journeys can be a great source of inspiration!

Happy university graduate with ADHD holding her certificate after academic success

Wrapping It All Up

As a Counsellor and ADHD Coach, I’m here to support you in boosting your self-esteem to improve your academic success and overall university experience. Please don’t hesitate to reach out if you need additional guidance.

ADHD Coaching Tips for Workplace Success

ADHD Coaching Tips for Workplace Success

As an ADHD coach and counsellor, I often encounter clients grappling with overwhelming workplace challenges. Many experience anxiety around going into the workplace and feelings of not being good enough, which is known as imposter syndrome. These are traits which can show up because of having diagnosed or undiagnosed ADHD.

Navigating ADHD in the workplace presents unique difficulties that require tailored strategies for success.

In this blog, we will explore techniques for overcoming the challenges adults with ADHD encounter in the workplace.

If you’re an employee navigating ADHD, this blog provides valuable tips to enhance your workplace experience. Finding fulfilment at work often triggers a positive ripple effect, improving other facets of your life, such as increased confidence, self-esteem, and motivation.

ADHD Struggles in the Workplace

Studies indicate that adults with ADHD are more likely to face job instability, frequent job changes, or periods of unemployment compared to their peers without ADHD.

Contributing factors include difficulties with time management, organisation, task completion, and maintaining focus. For instance, a person with ADHD might struggle to meet project deadlines due to poor time management or keep a clean and organised workspace.

Impulsivity, emotional dysregulation, and rejection sensitivity can further exacerbate these challenges. Despite their skills, many individuals with ADHD struggle to find workplaces that effectively accommodate their needs, leading to frustration and setbacks in their careers.

However, with the proper support, these challenges can become opportunities for growth and success.

ADHD in Adulthood: Key Insights and Strategies

Once perceived as primarily affecting children, ADHD is now widely recognised as a neurodevelopmental disorder that can persist into adulthood and may even manifest later in life.

For adults who have struggled with the traits of ADHD without understanding its cause, receiving a diagnosis can be an emotional but also a profoundly relieving experience. It validates their experiences, offering clarity and a framework for understanding why they may have faced challenges in various aspects of life, including education, work, and relationships.

Moreover, knowing they have ADHD opens doors to Counselling and ADHD Coaching, which can help them manage traits effectively and lead more fulfilling lives.  The recognition of ADHD in adulthood underscores the importance of ongoing awareness and support for individuals who may have been overlooked or misdiagnosed earlier in life.

ADHD in the Workplace: Key Traits to Identify

ADHD traits, often seen as quirks at home, can significantly impact professional environments. These include:

  • Boredom: Quickly losing interest in tasks or projects.
  • Distractions: Maintaining focus is difficult due to internal (daydreaming) or external (conversations) stimuli.
  • Forgetfulness: Struggling to remember tasks, responsibilities, or deadlines.
  • Hyperactivity: Inability to remain still.
  • Impulsiveness: Making quick decisions or comments without considering consequences.
  • Lack of relationship skills: Being overly blunt, interrupting often, or struggling with active listening.
  • Time management issues: Difficulty meeting deadlines or accurately estimating task completion times.
  • Procrastination: Delaying tasks unnecessarily.
  • Sensory Issues: Sensitivity to noise or light can significantly impact productivity and comfort, affecting tasks that require concentration and focus.

Overcommitting and People-Pleasing in the Workplace

If you have ADHD, you might notice yourself frequently overcommitting and trying to please others at work, sometimes taking on more tasks than you can handle. This tendency to people-please often arises from a desire to be helpful or a fear of letting people down, but it can result in burnout and reduced productivity over time.

Establishing clear boundaries and learning to prioritise tasks can be critical to effectively managing these tendencies and taking a more balanced and sustainable approach to work life.

Olivia’s Journey: ADHD Coaching in the Workplace

Olivia reached out to me after she was recently promoted. She faced new managerial responsibilities and interactions with senior leadership, which triggered overwhelming imposter syndrome and anxiety. Olivia also spoke of finding it particularly difficult to make decisions, which were a necessary part of her role.

We began by enhancing Olivia’s self-awareness of ADHD traits, reassuring her that her challenges were not personal failings but results of her unique cognitive processes. Despite excelling previously, she found the structured environment overwhelming, impacting her focus and productivity. ADHD Coaching sessions focused on implementing structure, time-management strategies, and organisational skills.

These strategies empowered Olivia to improve productivity, interpret feedback objectively, build confidence, increase self-esteem, and foster positive relationships. Olivia’s journey underscores the transformative impact of tailored ADHD management strategies, facilitating both personal and professional growth. Olivia’s story illustrates the potential for growth and success with practical strategies in place.

Successfully Managing ADHD in the Workplace

Managing ADHD effectively at work requires a combination of strategies and support. Communicating openly with employers about your condition to explore potential accommodations and support.

Companies can support their employees in various ways, including providing equipment such as assistive technology, noise-cancelling headphones, or a quiet workspace. Additionally, a government-funded program called Access to Work helps employees and employers by offering services such as specialist equipment, software, and ADHD coaching.  You can find some additional information on my Access to Work blog.

Practical Strategies for Managing ADHD in the Workplace

Focusing Tools:

  • Create checklists
  • Minimise distractions by turning off phones
  • Schedule specific times for returning calls
  • Use sticky notes for reminders
  • Allow extra time for task completion
  • Take regular breaks to recharge
  • Start your workday earlier to reduce distractions

Time-Management Tips:

  • Set alerts for deadlines using phones or computers
  • Use timers for tasks to maintain focus
  • Break larger tasks into smaller, manageable parts
  • Rotate tasks to sustain interest
  • Find an accountability partner for support

Communication Strategies:

  • Practice active listening
  • Seek repetitions if needed for understanding
  • Keep conversations concise and on-topic
  • Slow down speech to allow participation from others
  • Learn to read body language for improved communication

Centering Techniques:

  • Engage in breathing and relaxation techniques like yoga or meditation to manage impulsivity.
  • Identify triggers for impulsive behaviours and develop strategies for handling them effectively.

Keep track of the most effective strategy so you can utilise it when needed.

Turning ADHD Traits into Workplace Strengths

ADHD traits also bring unique advantages to the workplace.  Individuals with ADHD often demonstrate creativity, generating innovative ideas and solutions by thinking outside traditional norms.

Their hyperfocus on engaging tasks allows for deep, quality work and breakthrough insights. Despite challenges, their ability to multitask effectively can be beneficial in fast-paced environments requiring quick thinking, adaptability to change, and problem-solving under pressure.

These traits contribute to a dynamic and productive work environment when supported and directed.

Wrapping It All Up

Many individuals with ADHD face significant challenges in the workplace, but with proper understanding, support, and strategies, they can thrive professionally. If you’re struggling with ADHD at work, remember that seeking support is crucial.

As a coach and counsellor specialising in ADHD, I offer a tailored approach to help you manage ADHD effectively and achieve a more productive and less stressful work life. You’re not alone in this journey; resources and professionals are ready to help you.

Students with ADHD – Daily Planning Tips

Students with ADHD – Daily Planning Tips

Navigating the transition from school to university life can be exciting. However, it can be challenging, especially for students who are neurodivergent. A significant new report undertaken at Bristol University has revealed that one in seven students have ADHD or Autism, which equates to around fourteen per cent of all students.

The report revealed there is a much higher chance of students with autism and ADHD presenting with other neurodevelopmental conditions, such as dyspraxia and dyslexia or mental health conditions, such as anxiety, depression and personality or eating disorders.

This blog will examine how creating an ADHD-friendly schedule can help students with ADHD navigate university life.

ADHD affects executive functions crucial for planning, organising, managing time, making decisions, and regulating emotions.

Whether you are undiagnosed or received a childhood or adulthood diagnosis of ADHD, this blog will offer tips on how to maximise your university experience.

Structuring an ADHD-Friendly Schedule for University Students

By taking the reins and meticulously planning an ADHD-friendly planner, you can harness your time management skills, effectively prioritise tasks, and balance your academic and personal life. This sense of control can empower you, making you feel confident and in charge, and lead to a more fulfilling university experience.

Creating an ADHD-friendly schedule includes developing an effective morning routine and using specific study strategies tailored to the ADHD mind. At first, this might appear difficult or unachievable. However, establishing a routine can provide advantages, such as lowering stress and anxiety, improving academic performance, and maximising your overall university experience.

What is ADHD Paralysis?

ADHD paralysis, also known as ‘task paralysis,’ is a common experience among people with ADHD. It’s like when you know you have to do something important, but you just can’t seem to start or finish it. This can be because you’re not sure where to begin, you’re worried about not doing it perfectly, or you feel overwhelmed by how much there is to do.

As a result, individuals may struggle to initiate or maintain focus on activities, leading to procrastination and heightened stress. Understanding and addressing ADHD paralysis involves breaking tasks into smaller steps, setting clear goals, and employing organisational tools to improve focus and productivity.

8 Daily Planning Tips for Students with ADHD

1. Time Management: Creating an ADHD-Friendly Schedule

Remember to select a planner that matches your unique needs and preferences. Whether it’s an online calendar, a whiteboard, a pinboard, or a blend of paper and pens, the choice is yours. This autonomy can be liberating and contribute to a more personalised and effective study routine.

If you need to use your planner as intended, view it as an opportunity for change. Rather than being hard on yourself, embrace the chance to get creative and enjoy the process! With various planner types available, it may take time to discover the one that suits you best. Consider factors like format (digital or physical), level of detail, and portability. The goal is to find a planner you enjoy using that helps you stay organised.

2. Schedule a Study Routine

Begin by scheduling ‘non-negotiables’ such as lectures, study sessions, and classwork. These are the anchor points of your schedule—tasks that cannot be changed or skipped. They provide structure and focus, laying a foundation for success.

Consider adding ‘negotiables,’ like exercise, relaxation time, or hobbies, around these anchors. This balanced approach ensures you prioritise academic commitments while maintaining a healthy lifestyle, giving you a sense of control.

Adjust your schedule as needed to optimise productivity and well-being.

3. Establish a Sleep Routine

Setting and maintaining a consistent sleep schedule is vital for your overall well-being, especially when dealing with ADHD and its associated conditions, known as comorbidities. Sleep disorders are common among individuals with ADHD and can significantly impact academic success.

One strategy to help you wake up on time is the ‘5-4-3-2-1 method.’ When your alarm goes off, challenge yourself to get out of bed before you finish counting to one. This can help you start your day promptly and avoid the temptation to press the snooze button.

Adjust your sleep habits gradually until you find what works best for you, recognising that this process may take time, especially if you stay up late. Crafting an ADHD-friendly schedule involves balancing academic commitments with social interactions. Nurturing friendships and engaging in social activities while prioritising academic responsibilities is essential.

When planning to attend events, consider your schedule for the following day and make informed decisions about alcohol consumption by eating beforehand, staying hydrated, and alternating between alcoholic and non-alcoholic drinks.

Schedule social gatherings on lighter workload days to enjoy them fully without compromising your sleep or studies.

4. Organise your Morning Routine

Consider your morning routine before lectures—showering and heading straight out, enjoying a leisurely breakfast, meditating, exercising, or any other activity you prefer. Creating a realistic and sustainable schedule is critical.

Organising your belongings the night before can streamline your mornings. Pack everything you’ll need the next day and place it by the front door. Spend just five minutes before bed on this simple task.

Visualisation is a powerful technique for mentally preparing yourself. Take a moment to visualise your plans for the day ahead. Visualisation can prompt you to gather essentials like books, folders, and snacks.

Establishing this basic routine can significantly enhance your overall success as a student. Visualisation involves creating mental images of your goals and the necessary steps. It aids in maintaining focus, recalling essential details, and making informed decisions.

This revision maintains the flow while clarifying the steps and emphasising the importance of visualisation and organisation in student success.

5. Maximising Your Morning Routine

Use a timer to measure task durations accurately. For instance, note that it takes twenty minutes to shower and jot it down. Also, remember to account for commute time from home to class. Record these timings on paper and place them where they are easily visible. Maximising your morning routine is crucial for staying on schedule and arriving punctually.

An analogue or wall clock can help maintain focus. Using a mobile phone may lead to distractions—Minimise interruptions as much as possible in the morning.

Morning procrastination is common, especially for those with ADHD. If you anticipate checking social media or spending extra time on breakfast, allocate specific time slots and set alarms to manage your schedule effectively.

This version maintains the flow while ensuring clarity. It emphasises the importance of time management and minimises distractions in the morning routine.

6. Establish Regular Mealtimes for Energy Maintenance

Maintaining steady energy levels through regular meal and snack times is crucial for sustaining productivity and focus throughout the day. Planning each evening to organise meals and snacks for the following day promotes healthier eating and reduces impulsive decisions. Work towards achieving a balanced diet that incorporates carbohydrates, healthy fats and proteins,

This mix provides sustained energy and helps prevent sudden energy crashes. Keeping well-hydrated is equally essential; drinking adequate water throughout the day supports energy levels and prevents fatigue caused by dehydration.

To maintain stable energy levels, avoid sugary snacks that can lead to rapid changes in blood sugar levels. Instead, opt for snacks like nuts, yoghurt, or fruits, which offer a more consistent energy source. Engage in mindful eating by enjoying each bite, which supports better digestion and aids in regulating your appetite.

Including these dietary practices in your daily routine promotes better energy management, enhancing productivity and overall well-being.

7. Incorporating Downtime: Maximising Student Success

Remember, your well-being is just as important as your academic success. Schedule dedicated time for self-care and social activities in your university routine to maintain a healthy balance between work and relaxation.

Allocating time for self-care not only helps prevent ADHD paralysis but also demonstrates self-appreciation and fulfilment of personal needs. Participate in activities that bring you happiness and relaxation, such as reading, taking walks, or socialising with friends, as an essential aspect of your self-care regimen.

To manage ADHD paralysis effectively, employ strategies like breaking tasks into smaller steps, setting clear priorities, using reminders, and adhering to a daily planner.

If you find yourself slipping into ADHD paralysis, acknowledge it consciously and take a small step to break the cycle. Whether grabbing a healthy drink, listening to music, or changing your environment by taking a shower or stepping outside for fresh air, any action can help you regain focus. Importantly, be kind to yourself and avoid self-criticism; instead, move forward to the next task.

8. Mastering Meditation: Techniques for Enhanced Well-Being

Meditation significantly benefits students with ADHD by enhancing focus, reducing stress, and improving emotional regulation. Regular practice can calm the mind, making it easier to manage inattention and hyperactivity. Starting with just five minutes of meditation is a great way to begin. It may take a couple of months to grasp even a short meditation session fully. Try calming breathing exercises or grounding techniques if meditation doesn’t resonate.

Below is a sample of an ADHD-friendly morning routine, but remember that your personalised routine may differ significantly, and that’s perfectly fine. There’s no one-size-fits-all solution; you can tailor these strategies to your needs and circumstances. Feel confident that you can tailor them to suit you best.

This version maintains the flow while clarifying the benefits of meditation and emphasising personalisation strategies. It encourages flexibility and adaptation to individual preferences and needs, reinforcing the message that there is no universal approach to wellness that fits everyone.

Tips for Student Success

Flexibility: Adjust your routine to find what works best for you.

Consistency:  implementing these productivity tips will assist you in crafting a robust university routine, with time, will evolve into ingrained habits

Accountability: Share your schedule with friends, family, or housemates

Rewards: Celebrate small successes to keep yourself motivated.

Wrapping It All Up

Enhance your productivity, time management, and overall well-being with a structured routine tailored to your needs. The goal is to create a routine that fits with you while remaining flexible as you refine it.

If you need support in developing a consistent and healthy university routine, my coaching practice can help. As a counsellor and ADHD coach, I play a crucial role in student success by offering personalised guidance and accountability. Together, we’ll overcome challenges and achieve your goals.

I empower students with valuable insights and tailored strategies to navigate academic and personal hurdles. My guidance will help you unlock your full potential and thrive in your university journey.

Hypnotherapy for a Virtual Gastric Band

RTT Hypnotherapy for a Virtual Gastric Band

Have you tried countless diets, only to find yourself trapped in a pattern of crash dieting, where any weight loss you achieve is soon followed by weight gain? You may have seen positive results with some diets, but your old eating habits creep back over time. Most traditional diets focus on restricting certain foods, which can be challenging to maintain over the long term. However, weight problems extend far beyond your food choices; weight issues are deeply ingrained in subconscious beliefs and emotional ties to eating.

Rapid Transformational Therapy (RTT) and Virtual Gastric Band Hypnotherapy can transform your weight loss journey by addressing the emotional connection to eating. RTT Hypnotherapy offers a sustainable and effective solution to weight management by addressing the psychological factors that influence your food choices.

What is Rapid Transformational Therapy (RTT)?

RTT is an innovative therapy designed by renowned therapist Marisa Peer. It combines the most powerful elements of Hypnosis, Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), and Psychodynamic Therapy. This combination of therapies allows for deep and lasting results by working directly with the subconscious mind, where our habits and beliefs are formed.

As a therapist, I’ve used RTT to help many clients struggling with weight management issues, and the root cause of these issues goes far beyond the types of foods being consumed. 

Underlying beliefs and emotional triggers lead to unhealthy eating patterns, which need to be addressed for lasting change. RTT allows us to dig deep into these subconscious patterns and reframe them to support healthier choices.

What is Virtual Gastric Band Hypnotherapy?

A Virtual Gastric Band is a non-surgical approach to weight management that mimics the effects of a physical gastric band but uses the power of hypnosis instead of invasive surgery. During an RTT session, hypnosis allows you to tap into your subconscious mind to uncover and address the underlying causes of your weight challenges.

Unlike traditional gastric band surgery, the Virtual Gastric Band involves no physical procedures, medical risks, or recovery time. Instead, this process uses the power of suggestion to convince your mind that you’ve undergone a gastric band operation, leading to a natural reduction in appetite. You feel satisfied eating smaller portions, making it easier to lose weight and maintain those results over time—all from the comfort of your own home.

relaxing beach stone podium representing relaxing with RTT hypnotherapy for shedding weight

Why Can We Struggle With Weight Management Issues?

Weight management is not just about overeating; it’s often tied to deep-seated emotional and psychological factors. Many of us develop unhealthy relationships with food as a response to trauma, stress or emotional needs. For example:

  • Emotional Eating: Some people turn to food for comfort when stressed, anxious, or unhappy. This emotional eating can be a coping mechanism developed in childhood or during challenging times.
  • Beliefs About Food: Deep-rooted beliefs, such as “I deserve to treat myself with food” or “I need to finish everything on my plate,” can lead to overeating and unhealthy food choices.
  • Past Trauma: In some cases, unresolved trauma can lead to disordered eating patterns as a form of control or comfort. These are psychological issues that diets alone cannot address.

RTT allows us to reframe these deep-seated beliefs, replacing them with healthier patterns that align with your long-term goals for weight management.  If you are determined to achieve successful weight loss and make positive changes in your life, this non-surgical technique could be the ideal therapy for you.

Why Choose RTT and a Virtual Gastric Band Over Traditional Dieting?

Traditional diets often lead to short-term success, followed by weight regain. This happens because diets only address surface-level behaviour—what you eat—without tackling the psychological reasons behind overeating or unhealthy food choices. RTT, combined with Virtual Gastric Band Hypnosis, focuses on transforming your relationship with food from the inside out. By addressing the emotional and psychological triggers, you can free yourself from yo-yo dieting and achieve lasting results.  

No Deprivation

Many diets work by telling you what you can’t eat, leading to feelings of deprivation that can worsen weight problems. Restricting foods can make sticking to a diet difficult and, eventually, lead to overendugling or giving up entirely, so it’s not a long-term solution. RTT works differently. It helps you enjoy your favourite foods in moderation without feeling deprived. This freedom allows you to experience healthy weight loss, giving you the power to make lasting changes.

Sustainable Change

One key to long-term weight management is learning to trust your body’s natural hunger signals. RTT helps reconnect you with these signals, allowing you to eat intuitively. You’ll learn to recognise when you are hungry and stop eating when satisfied, leading to eating smaller amounts for sustainable weight loss.

Set Your Personal Weight Loss Goals

In the first session of RTT, we’ll discuss your specific weight loss goals so the session can be tailored to suit your needs best. Your motivations may vary—some individuals are focused on losing weight due to medical conditions such as heart disease, diabetes, or digestive issues. Others may seek a healthier lifestyle to have more energy for activities like playing with their children or grandchildren or even taking up a new sport. For some, the goal is to improve their self-image, including wearing the clothes they genuinely want rather than feeling limited by their current size.

The Science Behind Hypnosis and Weight Loss

There’s solid evidence supporting the effectiveness of hypnosis when combined with Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) for weight loss. A meta-analysis conducted by Kirsch, Montgomery, and Sapirstein (1993) found that integrating hypnosis with CBT significantly enhanced weight loss results, with improvements of up to 70% over using CBT alone. The study also showed that participants who used hypnosis with CBT were more likely to maintain their weight loss over time.

What Happens During an RTT Session?

You’ll enter a deeply relaxed state through hypnosis during an RTT session. In this state, your subconscious mind becomes more receptive to positive suggestions and imagery. If you are ready to start shedding weight using this non-surgical technique, this is what you can expect.

  • Hypnosis Session: You’ll visualise the installation of a virtual gastric band, simulating the physical effects of a real gastric band without the discomfort of surgery. This process helps you feel full and satisfied with smaller portions of food.
  • Personalised Audio Recording: After the session, you’ll receive a customised hypnosis audio recording to listen to for 21 days. This daily reinforcement is crucial for solidifying the changes made during your session and helping you create new, healthier habits.
  • Ongoing Support: Your therapist will guide you throughout your weight loss journey, ensuring you have the tools and strategies to maintain your progress.

Why RTT Works

RTT works by identifying and reframing the deep-rooted beliefs and emotions that drive unhealthy eating behaviours. By changing these patterns at the subconscious level, you can create lasting change in your relationship with food. Combined with Virtual Gastric Band Therapy, this approach makes weight loss achievable without the risks, recovery time, and discomfort of a physical gastric band.

Beautiful plus size woman supporting health and wellbing

Case Study: Michelle’s Journey to Confidence with Virtual Hypnosis Gastric Band Therapy (RTT)

Michelle, a 53-year-old teacher, initially came to me for counselling.  Michelle struggled when it came to weight management, confidence, and self-image—years of yo-yo dieting and weight fluctuations had taken their toll on her mental health.

Furthermore, Michelle explained that she would start a new diet enthusiastically and see some results, but she only saw short-term results as her old habits would return and her weight would pile back on. She spoke about worrying excessively about the health issues associated with weight problems. Michelle knew she had to make big lifestyle changes if she was ever going to be the fit, healthy person she dreamed of being. 

I could see that Michelle needed more than just a solution to her weight management issues; she needed to rebuild her confidence, regain control of her eating habits, and address the root cause of her struggle with her self-image.  I spoke to Michelle about the hypnotic gastric band, specifically through the practice of RTT, and she was keen to try it. 

Regression Therapy

During regression, Michelle returned to being in the school lunch hall when she was in primary school; she remembers school lunch often being the only hot meal she would eat as her parents struggled financially.  Michelle would eat dinner as quickly as possible, as the children who finished their plates could go up for a second helping.  Michelle spoke of eating exceptionally quickly and finishing her plate in case the food ran out.  This scene demonstrated that Michelle had formed the belief that food could run out, so she had to eat as much as possible when it was available.

The virtual gastric band hypnosis worked by creating a powerful suggestion that Michelle’s stomach was smaller than it was, helping her feel fuller faster and naturally reduce her portions without feeling deprived. However, we also addressed her mindset around food. We removed the belief that food was scarce and that it could run out. Addressing the beliefs around food is not a technique used in surgical gastric band therapy, but it is an essential part of gastric band hypnosis.

Michelle felt a mind-shift change directly after the session, as she was looking at weight loss through a completely different lens. We followed up a few days later, and Michelle had her weight loss goal in place and planned how she would reach it. She was motivated.

3 Months After The Session

Three months after her virtual gastric band hypnosis therapy, Michelle had not only shed weight but also a significant amount of emotional baggage. She was down several clothing sizes, but more importantly, she felt lighter in her mind and spirit. She reconnected with friends and even began to enjoy shopping for clothes again, something that used to fill her with dread.  I was extremely proud of the hard work Michelle put into the RTT process which contributed to her getting these amazing results.

Ready to Transform Your Relationship with Food?

To summarise, the hypnotic gastric band isn’t just about creating a physical sensation of fullness or imagining the physical size of the stomach shrinking; it’s about transforming how you think and interact with food.  Please book a discovery call if you are ready to make a positive change.

Top 10 Benefits of Daily Journalling

Top 10 Benefits of Daily Journalling

Imagine having a tool to help you clear your mind, eliminate stress and anxiety, and release your creativity in only a few minutes each day. Does this seem too good to be true? The good news is that this tool is available and only costs you time!

Daily journalling is a simple yet powerful activity that can improve your life more than you may realise. Research demonstrates journalling is a healthy way of increasing your emotional and mental health, communication skills, and personal growth. Learn more in this blog about the top 10 benefits of daily journalling and how it can help you.

1. Discover Peacefulness in A Busy World

Our daily life is usually bustling with demands, which can lead to issues such as overwhelm, sleep issues and mental and physical problems.  Keeping a journal not only has mental health benefits, but it also provides a sanctuary for your ideas, allowing you to lessen the chaos and restore mental clarity.

Writing down your thoughts, goals, and reflections can help you see things more clearly so you can focus on the essential things in life.‎ One of the many benefits of journalling is that it provides a space for positive self-talk, which can boost your confidence and increase your self-esteem.

2. Breathe Easier by Letting Go your Emotions 

Life can often throw us challenges, which can cause stress, anxiety, and emotional ups and downs. However, the simple act of journalling can help with many of these challenges. Writing in a journal offers a secure and judgment-free environment to express your thoughts and emotions and connect with your inner self.

3. Gain More Self-Awareness to Uncover Your True Self

Keeping a journal can provide a window into your thoughts, feelings, and behaviours. Journaling is a powerful tool for reflecting on past experiences; you may find trends that indicate more about your personality and what inspires you, aiding personal growth.

The first step towards achieving personal growth is creating a private space to be in the present moment. In addition to uncovering your true self, journalling improves your physical health, as demonstrated in a study by Karen A. Bailie and Kay Wilhelm.

cozy composition with mug, candles and a blanket representing grounding exercises

4. Enhance Your Emotional Well-Being with Each Page 

Engaging in a habit as easy as writing down a few phrases can significantly enhance your mental well-being, which is part of the magic of journaling. Various studies demonstrate that keeping a journal of your thoughts and emotions can lessen the symptoms of major depressive disorder, sadness, overwhelm, and anxiety. 

5. Release Your Creativity—There Are No Boundaries or Limits

You may believe that journalling is limited to writing. However, it’s also a space where your imagination can run wild by drawing, sketching, and brainstorming. Your creativity can flow onto the page when you write without limitations. Whether working on a project or exploring new ideas, journaling is an effective way to reach your full creative potential.  

6. Resolve Issues Expertly

Have you ever found yourself needing help to solve a problem? If the answer is yes, consider putting it in writing. Writing in a journal lets you view your difficulties and emotional triggers from different perspectives. It’s a form of communicating with yourself when strategising, evaluating, and breaking down the problem into smaller, more manageable tasks. The answer may show up on the paper in front of you before you realise it.‎

Young woman journalling in bed with a notebook and pen, creating a relaxing writing environment

7. Set and Smash Goals  

We have ambitions and goals, but achieving those dreams requires a strategy. That’s the purpose of journalling. Outlining your objectives and the measures necessary to reach them can create a road map for success. Maintaining a journal allows you to stay motivated and accountable by allowing you to monitor your progress. ‎

For more information on goal-setting, you can check out my blog.  As Ryan R. Bailey highlights in his article, ‘Goal Setting and Action Planning for Health Behaviour Change,’ journaling can be a powerful tool for achieving health-related goals.

8. Improve Your Communication Skills and Emotional Intelligence

Words have power; the more you use them, the more familiar they will become. Maintaining a journal can help you improve your vocabulary and communication skills by allowing you to express yourself more confidently and clearly. Writing in a journal may enhance your ability to advocate for yourself, whether in a meeting, sending an email, or during a difficult conversation. 

9. Improve Your Memory—One Blank Page at a Time

How often do you forget what happened during the day or what you have learned? We can all experience forgetfulness or brain fog from time to time, whether navigating the workplace, learning something new, or working through our daily to-do list.

Things can become more ingrained in your memory when you write them down. You’re keeping memories and improving your capacity to recall information when needed by routinely recording your experiences. Your journal becomes a gold mine of notes you may return to whenever you choose.‎

10. Heal and Grow More Thoroughly 

Although obstacles in life can leave their mark, writing provides a therapeutic avenue to focus on yourself. Writing in a journal pushes you to go that bit deeper by identifying any barriers preventing you from moving forward. Journalling can be challenging if you are working through intrusive negative thoughts that are causing you to have challenging emotions such as shame or anger.  

You can read more about managing shame in my blog.  If you are navigating your way around difficult situations. In that case, it is essential to remember you can reach out for support from trusted friends or family or professional help if you need extra help.  

If you feel journalling can help you, the following steps are an excellent way to get started:

  • Establish a Habit: Decide on a time that works best for you, whether before bedtime or first thing in the morning. 
  • Take Small Steps: It’s okay to miss a day; it doesn’t mean you should give up. Instead, pick up your pen again and get back to it whenever you are ready, even if you restart with a single line.
  • Be Honest: It’s your place to explore your inner world, so write from your heart, which can bring you many positive experiences.
  • Experiment with Different Formats: There are many types of journalling, such as bullet journalling, expressive writing, drawing images, and gratitude journalling.

Final Verdict: Your Journey Starts Today

Writing in a journal aids positive change, which can bring many benefits. You have a rare opportunity to develop a close relationship with yourself. Writing down your inner thoughts creates a safe space to explore your feelings, objectives, needs and preferences. Daily journalling is a simple yet powerful activity that can transform your life by improving communication skills and personal growth. Learn about the top 10 benefits of daily journalling and how it can help you reach your full potential.

Taking the first step towards journalling is could be the best thing you do today, for personal development, better health, and gaining a greater sense of self.  What are you waiting for, grab that paper and pen!

Top 5 Tips for Setting Goals and Achieving Them

Top 5 Tips for Setting Goals and Achieving Them

Much evidence supports that setting clear goals makes reaching them much more achievable. Bailey (2019) highlights in his article the importance of clear goals as he explores the necessity of action planning. In his article “Goal Setting and Action Planning for Health Behavior Change,” Bailey emphasises the importance of a structured approach to goal setting, specifically when achieving health-related outcomes. According to Bailey, action planning provides a clear path to success and ensures our efforts are focused and effective.

Setting goals is not just about achieving them; it’s about taking control of our lives and doing meaningful things for ourselves. It is easy to get distracted by life’s demands, and we must take time out. So, goal setting is not only for workplace or academic success; those personal goals are just as important. The sense of achievement we feel when reaching a goal has excellent mental health benefits, including boosting confidence and self-esteem. 

You are never too young or old to start the goal-setting process. Research by the National Foundation for Educational Research highlights that goal-setting frameworks, such as SMART goals, significantly enhance students’ motivation and academic performance (Lord, Atkinson, & Mitchell, 2008). Therefore, if you are attending college or university, it can be the perfect time to start goal-setting. 

1. Setting the Foundation: Writing and Defining Your Goals

Writing down your long-term goals is the first step towards turning aspirations into reality. Reflect on what is truly important to you and where you envisage yourself in the future. It could be in one month or year—whatever works for you. Gaining a clear vision of your goal is an important part of the goal-setting process.

If you only have vague goals, a good strategy is to get creative, design a vision board, and find photos and quotes that grab your attention.  Visualising a specific goal can bring it to life and give you a clear vision of where you want to be in the future. Also, getting creative is fun and has many mental health benefits.

Remember, a goal doesn’t have to be something extreme, such as running a marathon or skydiving (although it can be if that’s what you want!). Your personal goals can be anything that’s important to you, whether health or professional, or you want to focus on personal development goals. 

Setting one goal can positively impact other areas of your life.  For instance, a personal development goal could be to boost your confidence and self-esteem. Increasing your confidence and self-esteem can open doors to new experiences, and you will learn to trust your decisions more. Personal development goals can be the best way to set the foundations for practical goal setting. 

2. Milestone Setting: Tracking Achievements

Once you have your big goal, the next step is to break it down into smaller goals and then break these smaller goals down into more manageable tasks.  A big goal can feel overwhelming if you imagine yourself standing at the bottom of a vast mountain; the top can seem so far off, and reaching the top can feel unachievable. However, climbing that mountain can feel doable when you break it down into manageable tasks.

A good idea is to set aside time to note down everything you need to do to complete a task. Putting pen to paper can give you a clearer understanding of what you must do to achieve that task and increase your chances of success.  It can often be the smaller tasks that are the most important steps, so getting these onto paper can be highly beneficial. 

Keeping a to-do list can be an excellent way to keep you on track; you can then update it daily, marking off your achievements.  Your achievements are your driver to move forward, so it’s so important to celebrate them. When completing tasks, it can be helpful to identify any barriers you may come across and then do some problem-solving to decide how to overcome them. Balancing this with self-care is essential, as working towards your goals can be hard work. Reminding yourself of ‘why’ you want to reach your goal is another factor that will help drive you towards the finishing line.

man jumping through gap in cliffs signifying reaching your goals

3. Make Goal-Setting Achievable

I advocate for thinking big and not letting anything stand in your way, but it is also essential to set realistic goals. It’s about getting the balance right, as there are some things you need to consider when setting goals. For example, suppose the big goal is to climb Kilimanjaro. In that case, there is a lot to consider, such as physical fitness, mental well-being, the possibility of altitude sickness, booking vaccines, and available finances.  

The next step towards positive goal setting is devising an action plan. To do this, write down the different factors you need to consider. Then, note the actionable steps it will take to complete each factor. You could work on them individually, or you might work on some simultaneously.

Pushing yourself out of your comfort zone when setting goals is positive, as ambitious goals are great for personal growth. However, you also want to avoid getting overwhelmed. So, think big, but also consider your capabilities and the available resources before setting goals, tasks, and time scales.

4. Set Timeframes: Assign Deadlines to Create a Sense of Urgency

Time scales and deadlines are essential to goal setting as they keep you on track, make you accountable, and can prevent procrastination and perfectionism.  You can gauge your progress by setting target dates for each task, including the small goals. There can be room for movement with this; it can be challenging to know how long a particular task will take, as it can depend on your current situation, such as external factors.

However, having an estimated timescale can keep you motivated as you know that each minute you work on the task brings you closer to reaching the end goal. For greater goal-setting success, you must clearly understand what you must do to achieve the big goal. You can then break this down into daily tasks.

man with arms outstretched enjoying freedom representing reaching goals

5. Seek Accountability and Be Resourceful

Keeping yourself accountable is another crucial part of goal setting. It can be easy to get off track, as other exciting things might appear while you work on a task. If this happens, note down whatever distracted you and spend time on it when you have a planned timeout. Some great online accountability trackers can help with motivation and organisation and keep you accountable.

Sharing your goal with a family member or trusted friend can help keep you accountable. However, it can be a great source of inspiration if you prefer not to share your goal-setting journey with others. Try writing about it in your journal or checking if there are local groups or an online community of people who have a similar goal.

Checking your progress regularly is a great way to ensure you’re on the right track. It’s important to remember to celebrate your achievements, even if you feel they’re small steps. After all, small steps can lead to big changes. Having a list of tasks can feel daunting, so take time to look back at what you have achieved with pride.  

SMART Goals

SMART goals are a structured approach to goal setting often used by professional coaches. It is also a technique you can implement if you are self-coaching.  The SMART Goal acronym is Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant and Time-bound.  Let’s break down SMART Goals and what they mean.

  • Specific: Set the goal that you want to accomplish
  • Measurable: Plan how you are going to track your success
  • Achievable: Check your goal is realistic
  • Relevant: Ensure there are beneficial outcomes
  • Time-bound: Create a deadline and prioritise tasks

Following the SMART goal criteria will ensure you clearly understand your goals and confirm they are within reach. 

note book with handwritten smart goals open on a table with glasses and sticky notes.

Empowering Yourself Through Self-Coaching

If you are self-coaching rather than working with a professional coach, a great tip is to follow the SMART goals model to keep on track. Reaching your goals can be a transformative journey that can foster growth and resilience.   

When you achieve your goals, you prove to yourself that anything is possible when you fully invest in the process. Reaching your goals highlights the power we hold within ourselves.

What to Take into Consideration When Self-Coaching:

Understanding Motivation: Intrinsic vs. Extrinsic Motivation: Consider what motivates you to achieve your goal. Is it fuelled by intrinsic satisfaction or extrinsic motivation? Subsequently, is it internal satisfaction or external rewards? Discovering the source of your motivations can help you tailor strategies to reach your goal.

Overcoming Obstacles: Handling Setbacks and Failures: Resilience is essential to goal setting, as reaching our goals can be challenging. There can be setbacks or times when you feel you have failed. Having a plan of strategies you can use in these cases can help you keep moving forward.

The Importance of Mindest: The Role of Growth Mindset in Goal Setting: It is vital to develop a growth mindset; if you feel you can never succeed in your goals, you have a much lesser chance of achieving them.  It would help if you learned to believe in yourself and your abilities.  Working on your self-esteem can help with this.

The Role of Reflection: Reviewing and Revising Goals: Goals can change, which is okay; it is recommended to review your goals periodically to ensure they are still relevant. Circumstances such as discovering new interests or significant life changes can impact the larger goals. Therefore, goals may need to be tweaked now and then. Remember to check in with yourself and track your process to ensure you are going in the correct direction.

The Power of Visualisation and Affirmations: A clear image of your goal can reinforce it and motivate you to progress. Visualising your goal can also bring it to life and make it feel real, pushing you forward on your goal-setting journey.

The Impact of Environment: Creating a Goal-Conducive Space: Your social environment is an integral part of goal setting. Finding a clear area to work in when planning or working through your goals can help you stay focused. Similarly, it can be helpful to surround yourself with others who support your dreams. If you don’t have friends or family who can help you reach out, see if there are local or online communities of people with a shared interest.

Health and Wellbeing: The Foundation for Goal Achievement: There is a real connection between physical health, mental well-being, and the ability to achieve goals. Taking care of yourself can vastly improve your chances of reaching your goal. Staying healthy involves a healthy diet, regular exercise, good nutrition, and enough sleep.

Leveraging Technology: Tools and Apps for Goal Tracking: A journal can be a great way to plan and track your progress.  However, many apps can help with this if you prefer to use digital technology.  Check-out goal tracking apps that can help you with accountability and motivation.

Goal Setting for Different Life Stages: Our goals may change as we go through life. For example, a goal you had when you were a student may differ from one you had when you were a parent. Sometimes, it is necessary to reassess your goal and decide how reaching it would fit your current life situation.

The Role of Emotional Intelligence in Goal Setting: Being aware of your emotions and how to manage them can play an essential role in goal setting. Stress, navigating relationships, and maintaining motivation can all show up when working towards a goal. The correct tools to manage these emotions healthily will help you move forward.

Case Study: From Self-Coaching to Professional Guidance

Adam, a 35-year-old IT support specialist, contacted me for life coaching as he struggled to reach his goal through self-coaching. Adam’s goal was to find satisfaction and happiness in his daily life. Adam believed he might need to change his career to achieve this, but he was feeling some resistance and couldn’t decide if this was the correct step. 

We explored Adam’s core values, long-term aspirations, and what motivated him. Adam found that creativity, adventure, and friendships were high on his list of values, but these values weren’t showing up much in his life. Subsequently, Adam recognised that his professional life was not causing him to feel dissatisfied, as he spoke positively about his role as an IT specialist. However, he recognised that work had become his sole purpose and identity. 

When Adam recognised that his time outside of work was equally important as his time at work, his overall goal changed. With this updated goal in mind, Adam structured a plan and considered any potential barriers. Adam described himself as an introvert, which he felt held him back socially. We discussed Adam’s introverted traits and how he could embrace them by focusing on his strengths and introducing self-care into his life. We also worked on his limiting beliefs around being an introvert.

Counselling and Coaching Approach

We examined Adam’s needs and preferences through a counselling and coaching approach. Adam came up with ideas that aligned with his values: creativity, adventure, and friendships. Adam tried out many new ventures before finding a hobby he is now passionate about; this has increased his social circle, and he feels he has a sense of purpose inside and outside the workplace. 

Adam’s situation demonstrates that the first step is to identify the goal entirely. Adam continued to successfully use his self-coaching skills to achieve his ultimate goal while engaged in coaching sessions. During a recent session with Adam, he expressed how these changes had added value to his life, and he now feels he has the happiness and sense of satisfaction that he was searching for when he began self-coaching. Adam felt self-coaching and professional coaching were the best route for him, and overall, he feels a great sense of accomplishment for the hard work he has put into getting to where he is today. 

To Conclude

Applying the above tips empowers you to take charge of your goal-setting journey as your coach or mentor.   Self-coaching can be highly beneficial. However, it’s also okay to reach out to a trusted friend or for professional help if you feel you would like that extra bit of support.

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